Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Friends to the End

I was looking through some books on my shelf for something to read and I found a book that Jenny gave me awhile ago. I absolutely LOEV parts of it.

Friends to the End
It's not easy finding the words to talk about a friendship like ours, which is strange, considering how close we have become.
It makes me wonder, how can we possibly express what friends are really worth? What makes friendship, especially a friendship like ours, so special?
There is a curious fact about friendship that we have always known but rarely acknowledge: By understanding others, we also come closer to understanding ourselves.
What we look for and value in our friends are the very same qualities we are most proud of or wish were more evident in ourselves. So in no small way, our friends tell us a lot about who we are and who we aren't.
Genuine friendships are founded on a shared vision---the view that our lives are somehow better because particular people are part of them.
Despite numerous differences, real friends see eye to eye on all the issues that matter. Our common values, passions, concerns, and mutual respect enhance our life experiences as a whole.
Friends genuinely care about each other. A friend is there to help keep our chin up, no matter what it takes. Friends know when to offer serious counsel and thoughtful, heartfelt advice.
Most important, friends know when to just sit quietly beside us and say nothing at all.
Obviously, the best thing about our friends is that we have fun together. Lots of fun.
We go on adventures, scream out our favorite lyrics, and basically get ourselves into bizarre but enjoyable situations that probably don't make a lot of sense to anybody else.
By far the worst thing about friends is having them leave. Whether they move to another city or to another country, this is the saddest of good-byes, especially if we know we have seen them for the very last time.
Thinking about losing friends, though it makes us feel incredibly sad, is actually very healthy if it reminds us how special our friends are and that they cannot be replaced.
You could search the whole world looking for a friendship like ours, and you would only wear out a good pair of feet.
It is usually not possible to tell at first sight whether we will get along with someone or not. There are no "ready-made perfect friends" per se. There are simply people to whom we can really pour out our hearts.
A real friendship is something we both have to build---in many ways it's a journey we take together.
The key to starting on the right foot is not to try and impress anybody. No one can keep up the act forever, so you may as well just be yourself from day one---they can either like it or not.
Take your time getting to know each other. What's the hurry?
Ideally, we want friends with whom we'll grow closer and closer as we get older, so it makes sense to invest a little time and energy finding out who they really are.
We all want and deserve a friend with whom we truly connect in a meaningful way. Someone who acknowledges our fears and limitations without judgement and encourages us to reach further than we ever thought possible.
A friend with whom we share things that are most precious to us. A friend who will see our hidden qualities and like us for exactly who we are without reservation, thus helping us fulfill our extraordinary potential.
True friends make us smile as soon as we see them waving to us across a room. They lighten our hearts without even trying.
With a real friend, we know exactly what they are thinking without having to say a word.
This connection is completely unique. At times it's as if we are the only two people on this earth.
Friendship is a special type of partnership based on the profound understanding that together the impossible becomes possible.
It is an unspoken yet binding commitment to help each other live our lives to the fullest.
I know how lucky I am to have a friend like that, and I just want to say that no matter what happens, you will never be alone because you will always be my friend.
Always.

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